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• Using fear positively.
People who allow themselves to be controlled by fear permit the feelings to dictate their actions. So for example if someone has a fear of flying they are very likely to decide to take holidays that do not involve a flight. We have had a lot of people on The Fear Course who have chosen jobs or stayed at low job grades and not taken promotions because the new job requires foreign travel or doing presentations or whatever their fear is. Further, discount viagra we have had quite a few people who have stayed in jobs they hate because of a fear of job interviews.
Then there are people who just ignore the feelings (many people can’t do this). They just keep going regardless of their feelings. At first glance this sounds ideal if you can do it. In most cases, if you can, doing this allows you to just get on with whatever it is you have a fear about. The problem with this is that it can lead to trouble. Fear is a protection mechanism and it can often give us vital data about a situation. So for example if you are walking down an empty street on your own at night and then a group of youths appears at the other end of the street and start to loom at you. Ignoring the fear in this situation could get you into all sorts of trouble as could deciding to panic and run. Likewise when flying, just ignoring the feelings could just be the wrong thing to do.
The last group of people recognise how they are feeling at any time (emotional intelligence). However they do not allow the fear to control them or ignore the feelings. Instead they use the data to tell them that there is something to pay attention to, and start planning just in case the worst does happen.
When I was running a department at Cranfield University the department in the building next door contained the Human Factors Group led by Professor Helen Muir. They are experts in aircraft evacuation and crash analysis. One of their many research findings was a common pattern shared with many air crash survivors. They found that people who tend to survive air crashes all have worked out a plan of action just in case the worst happened. For example they count how many seats they are away from the emergency exits in both directions and they also picture what they would do if anything did happen. They don’t just ignore the feelings. Having made a plan they then get on with the whatever they are doing.
I have interviewed a number of people who have survived capture or escaped terrifying situations. Again they were aware of their nerves and made plans just in case the worst happened. So that when the worst did happen they had a well thought out plan of action rather than just reacting emotionally either at the time of the feelings or worst still at the time of an incident.
Use fear to tell you it’s time to make a well considered plan of action – just in case. Then move on. If you find the fear is just too much then get some well-qualified professional help.
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